Lessons from Tantric Massage 6: Connecting with the P spot in men

In tantric massage connecting with the G spot in women or the P spot in men are elements in certain massages, including extended sexual orgasm. The G spot in women is not the clitoris but just inside the vagina, its roof if she is lying on her back. In men the P spot is located in the prostate. There are 2 ways to connect with it: - direct physical contact is possible through the anus and into the lower bowel where it is felt through the roof if the man is on his back, or it can be contacted energetically through the area under the balls called the perineum, just in front of the anus using much firmer pressure or vibrations.

In men the perineum, that area under the balls and back to the anus, plus the very lowest part of the bowel just inside the anus is richly supplied with sensory nerve endings. This is one reason why it is such a sensitive area and an erogenous zone in most men. Touch of various sorts in this area is therefore, not surprisingly, such an important element in massage and sexual encounters.

Deeper inside the anus where the prostate is felt there are no sensory nerve endings responding to touch like this or pain fibres hence the potential danger of introducing anything rigid into the bowel. Fisting is the most extreme example of this. There are however ways to connect with the energy via the P spot more safely using fingers, dildos whether hand-held or vibrating and devices delivering electric currents. These are in addition to the erect penis which may be doing this during penetrative anal intercourse in men.

This is important for masseurs who have been trained to deliver Tantric Massage but it will also be of interest to men who are seeking to engage in tantric sex with other men. There are a variety of ways in which connection between their energy bodies can happen with energies flowing between them. The most obvious deep connection may happen through penetrative anal intercourse when the couple are physically deeply connected but not necessarily energetically connected. This is where I return to something I talked about in an earlier episode of this blog - the Wheel of Consent which comes into play.

Betty Martin’s talk on YouTube is excellent or website - https://www.artofconsent.co.uk/wheel-of-consent     .

When it comes to touch there is a circle with 4 quadrants. Who is doing the touching? For whose benefit is the touching happening? Is the TOP doing this for his pleasure or to pleasure the BOTTOM? Likewise is the BOTTOM wanting this to happen for his pleasure or is he making his body available for the TOPs pleasure. How many TOPS are only interested in penetrating and coming to orgasm? How many BOTTOMS enjoy being penetrated and are brought to orgasm or are left after the TOP has discharged to cum by themselves, if that’s how they want to finish.

Has tantra got anything to offer those who are looking for casual one-time sex. It certainly has much to offer those who are either in relationship or are couples engaging in sex on a regular basis and want to explore deeper connection, with what is  more fulfilling and enlivening sex.